Feel Better in the Mourning™ -- Give Grief a Voice
||Our hearts get broken in many ways, but in particular when someone dies. To mend those broken places we need to give grief a voice. Many approach grief using a touch-it-with-white-gloves stance. I don't think this is helpful. Mourning is rarely neat and tidy but by giving grief a voice, even if it's an angry or bitter or disappointed one, the chances of mending the heart back to well being are much greater.
Grievers seeking counseling are often
encouraged to talk about how they are feeling. What you
say does get said, but there is no permanent record or "snapshot".
Tap what may be hidden creative juices residing inside
in order to move yourself along with your grief. Don't
fall into the trap of expecting or hoping for the express
train through this process. If you write those responses
down, apply paint to a piece of paper or canvas, or do
a collage, the "snapshot" captures
a moment and makes it more concrete. Even if recording
the raw details of your loss feels like swallowing a
bitter pill, be assured that most pills do make us feel
better. When we create our "snapshots," we
may feel as though the particular upset or misery we
are experiencing will be everlasting. Days, months or
years later, you can look at what you have expressed,
and realize that you've moved on, or feel better, or
can manage to go an entire day without tears. If you
think it would be disloyal to your loved one to ever
move on in your grieving, honor that, but remember that
all things change over time -- grief, too.
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