Out on a Limb
A Monthly Newsletter from Martha Clark Scala
Invest in bringing joy back to your life.
December 2009
 
Welcome to Out on a Limb, a monthly newsletter from Martha Clark Scala. This free e-zine is meant to invite and inspire you to maximize the joy in your life.

3rd Annual Prompts for Joy: Manageability

If you’ve been receiving Out on a Limb for a couple of years, you might be expecting the 3rd Annual Prompts for Joy in this December issue. Two years ago, YouTube was still pretty new; the novelty of being able to share videos that brought joy was exciting. But now, not only are YouTube videos more mainstream, but they are being shared with others via the explosion in social networking. Facebook, My Space, and Twitter all offer the opportunity to provide a link to videos worth seeing. The videos are just as compelling as they were a couple of years ago, but in the interest of manageability, I dare not contribute to anyone’s overwhelm or media overload! From now on, each monthly newsletter will offer one or two links that will serve as potential prompts for joy. If you are a newcomer to this newsletter, click here to get some background on what is meant by Prompts for Joy. The December 2009 Prompts for Joy are:

What a Wonderful World: Animal lovers will especially like this short one. (~ 2 minutes)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mnox0YM9pWQ&annotation_id=annotation_603355&feature=iv

Bodhisattva in Metro: This one’s a little bit longer. Just try not to laugh. (~6 ½ minutes)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jedd2FiZTqM

(Many thanks to Roberta Gelt and Amber Sumrall for sharing these videos with me.)
 
In Pursuit of Manageability

A dear friend of mine does not send or receive e-mail and he doesn’t own a cell phone. If you call his home number, you hear his voice say “as long as I am working on my current project, I am only using the phone between 5 and 9pm.” These may seem like drastic measures, to some, but I bet this person still has days when life feels unmanageable. Perhaps it can’t be avoided, entirely, but that doesn’t mean we should give up trying, does it? Joy is at stake here!
  Emptying the Plate

If “too much on my plate” is the problem, what is the solution? Trying to gobble everything up? Or is it putting less on the plate in the first place? Just as we might not want to miss one good, joy-inducing YouTube video, to what extent do we bring unmanageability to our lives by trying to do, see and be too much? Perhaps it is best to meditate on phrases such as this: “There is always enough and enough is plenty.” I don’t know who I’m quoting but I’ll not make my life more unmanageable by trying to figure it out!
 

Grief Counsel

Two more of my FAQ responses are posted at the Caring.com website. Feel free to comment or indicate whether you find these helpful, at the end of each FAQ! Also, please forward these to anyone who might benefit from reading the FAQs.

Click here for “What if I Don’t Feel Sad After a Loved One’s Death?”
Click here for “Is it Normal to Wish I Could End My Own Life After My Loved One Has Died?”

 

Joy-Gram for December 2009

Ask yourself if your life feels unmanageable in any of these areas: social calendar, work/life balance, self-care, computer time, spending, eating, home life, substance use. What one thing could you do different, or could you take off your plate to alleviate stress and increase manageability?

 

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Disclaimer
By no means do I have joy “figured out.” Please do not assume that I do! I write Out On a Limb as much as a meditation for myself in the ongoing pursuit of joy, as for you. I think this pursuit is a lifelong journey and that the full experience of joy is, at best, episodic. May we all have more episodes!

 

Martha Clark Scala, MFT 721 Colorado Ave., Suite 201, Palo Alto, CA 94303
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